The Godly Man: Is That Really What You’re Looking For?


The Godly Man: Is That Really What You’re Looking For?

By: Christine K. Pembroke (@ChrissyySunday)

All too often, we as women proclaim that we want a man of God. Most of the time, it’s due to a situation that didn’t end well, or an encounter with a “good for nothin’” dude who brought us drama and stress. In all our righteousness (I hope you’re catching the sarcasm here) we examine our “wonder-man” checklist and reprioritize line items such as swag, intelligence, and good looks, placing “man of God” right on the top. It makes us feel amazing, doesn’t it? It sounds simple enough, but what we don’t realize is that a lot of the time, what we’re asking for, isn’t really what we’re ready for.

 I remember when I would tell my mom when I was going on a date, and the first thing she’d ask me was if the guy knew Christ. “Yup!” I’d respond (partially irritated), so long that he had a church home and knew about Noah and the Arch, Lot and his wife, and for bonus points, names of the men thrown in the fire that didn’t burn. As I matured in Christ, however, I began to realize what my mom really wanted to know, was if the guy I was dating loved Christ.

 As much as I didn’t want to admit it, when I look back to those years, I can honestly say I don’t think I was looking for a man who loved Christ. A man who truly dedicated his heart to the Lord and was eager to learn more about the Word was probably way out of my league. That’s probably because I was demanding more in someone else than I was willing to have myself.

Ask yourself a few questions… how would you feel if you dated a guy who didn’t drink or party? What would you do if he didn’t stay over past a certain time or didn’t like to cuddle to resist sexual temptation?

If you’re cringing at the possibility of these scenarios, the idea of a Godly man may be something to truly explore because it is very likely that these would be the behaviors of someone serious about pursuing a life of righteousness. Not so hot now, huh? Is this still what you had in mind?

When single and looking, it’s important to be super intentional with dating. We may not have it all figured out, but it’s always helpful to avoid umbrella terms and be as specific as possible with our desires. This helps with discerning the men encountered, and surely helps in prayer. Using the term “godly” to encompass only kindness, generosity, and the memorization of Psalm 23rd is unfortunately a misnomer.

A Godly man is in relationship with Christ, and his life is reflective of that. He seeks God’s face constantly, delights in the Word, and leads those around him toward God also.  He’s surely not perfect, but continually strives for righteousness. A Godly man is a force to be reckoned with, and if you want him, you better be sure…and ready.