Twenty Somethin’ and Married: What Being Married Young Taught Me About Myself


Twenty Somethin’ and Married: What Being Married Young Taught Me About Myself

By Eve Auston

  1. In December of this past year, I tied the knot with the love of my life. There has been a lot that I have learned during this time that I wanted to share with you all this month:

  2. Even though you’re married, your marriage doesn’t mean you should not put yourself first. It’s important to maintain your hobbies and passions so that you don’t lose vital parts of yourself in your relationship.

  3. Self-reflection time is important and reclaiming your alone time is imperative for spiritual growth. Continue to challenge yourself to process what you need. Make sure you’re thinking critically about your goals for the relationship.

  4. Dating doesn’t stop after the vows are exchanged. Don’t get complacent with the “couch and Netflix” nights. While those are definitely necessary, I am so grateful that my husband and I continue to go on dates to spice up our love languages and just have fun!

  5. Compromising is not the same as Conceding and it’s important to know the difference. Compromising in the relationship means adjusting to find a common ground. Conceding is abandoning your needs for the sake of your partners.

  6. Try to learn new things about your partner every day. As we grow and develop into new versions of ourselves, so will our partners.

  7. It’s important to continue working on the relationship, even after the honeymoon phase is over. It can be so easy to stop working once the vows are exchanged because “We did it! We’re married!”  Honestly, saying “I do” is just the beginning (in the best way possible).

  8. Keep your family and friends out of your relationship as much as possible. Advice works but too many cooks in the kitchen makes the food sour.

  9. Be aware of who you tell your problems to. There are some folks that may be unhappy with where they are and want what you have.

  10. Try to laugh with your partner every day.

  11. Argue to fix, not to fight. This was something that my husband started saying when we first started dating and it really has been a major contributing factor to the reason we got married. Arguing to fix the problem instead of hurting one another takes the attention away from attacking your partner and refocuses the energy on attacking the issue.

    Hopefully, these are insightful for you as you and your partner have the big talk. Even if you don’t have a partner, hopefully, these can be helpful tips for you to think about as you process what you’re looking for in a relationship!