Communicating Creatively | Out of the box ways to “talk” to your partner

Communicating Creatively | Out of the box ways to “talk” to your partner

By: Timoshanae Wellmaker

Communicating in a relationship of any sort is crucial to the relationship’s health. When it comes to romantic relationships, it seems communication is even more important to the survival of that relationship. Put simply, you’ve got to be able to talk to your man or woman about what’s important to them, their feelings and all sorts of things. This is the reason there are so many articles and books targeted for just that- communicating effectively in a relationship.

If you are anything like me you may struggle to always tell your partner what’s on your mind, too. In my case it has nothing to do with him and everything to do with me. I think about what I want to say, then try to find the perfect time to bring it up, end up overthinking and not saying it to him. I knew I no longer wanted this to be a “thing” in my relationship. As I begin thinking of how I could hold up my end of communication in my relationship, I got a little creative. In this post I highlight a few communication tools that might be worth trying if you, too, need to boost your relationship communication to the next level.

The first thing I’m trying is a communication journal since writing is a place I find comfort. My plan with this is simple, yet specific. To push myself to only use it as a tool and not my primary means of communication, I’m limiting myself to use it no more than once weekly and never write more than a page- anything longer than that and that calls for an immediate face to face chat. Once my partner reads it we must have a conversation about it and then throw the page away and move on.

A drop jar can be sweet and quick. Grab a mason jar and place it in a location you and your partner will see more than once or week. When something is on your mind longer than a day and you haven’t been able to talk about it, jot it down and put it in the jar. Depending on you and your partner’s schedule, you can check the jar weekly or biweekly to discuss an item or two. 

Taken out of the sexual context, safe words within a relationship might help with communication also. They can signal when you need to talk about something or when you’d prefer your partner to change the subject. Safe words can be fun and completely random, you and your partner just need to remember what you decide on. 

Scheduled sessions are just as they sound. This might be something you already do in your relationship. These can be small check-ins you plan, possibly every other Monday when you two are off work. Turn off all possible distractions and just have a one-on-one. Begin with questions such as, ‘How are you feeling? Has anything bothered you?’ To make these sessions most effective, set a timer for 30 minutes. Only add time and never subtract it, this way you don’t feel rushed and have time to ease into any needed conversation.

The key is making sure you do what works for you and your partner. There is no one size fits all for a relationship, so you’ve got to mend and create the things that will work. Another important thing to keep in mind is that while the things on this list can help you in communicating with your partner, they should not be your primary source of communication. As important as communication is to the health of a relationship, you’ve got to step out of the ordinary. Make sure you chat with your partner before you introduce any of these things, because communication is important on the front end as well.