The Real #InMyFeelingsChallenge

Tips On How To Self-Care While Working That Hustle

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Drizzy's #InMyFeelings Challenge has taken the world by storm. While folks dance to "Keke, do you love me?" did anyone think to ask Keke if she loves herself? In this article, I offer some tips to stay in tune with your feelings as you navigate the hustle and flow of work, life, love, and everything else that fills your plate.

Tip 1:Reclaim Your Time-That job will be there long after you're gone and so will be another bright eyed professional to fill your spot. While that doesn't mean your work isn't valuable, hurting yourself over your job will only leave you feeling less and less fulfilled. If you can, stop having meetings during your lunch. Stop working after hours and skipping nights out with your friends. Take those vacation days, go out for a night, and take that well deserved time. Your coworkers are doing it, why aren't you? #PositivePeerPressure

Tip 2: Start saying "No",girl!- This tip is simple: if you someone asks you to do something that you don't want to do? Say no. Don't want to go to that party? Say no. Don't want to go on that date and spend the night in? Say no. Too often, women of color in our society are pressured in to agreeing to do things that we do not want to do to please others. You're on your grind and if you need to binge watch "A Different World" instead of going to Sally's Wine and Paint night? Say no and enjoy the couch, love.

Tip 3: Be Transparent- Those who love you can't help you self-care if they don't know you need it. Black women have been forced to push through the pain, tiredness, and soreness to get the work done for centuries. If your partner doesn't know that you are tired because you didn't tell them, then you cannot receive support when you need it. As much as I would love my man to be a mind reader (it's not that hard to just do the dishes without me asking, ya know?) he doesn't know I need help until I tell him. Even if it's slowly, start telling those around you that you need support. It takes a village, and you'll need all the help you can get on your climb to the top