To My Skinny Sistas


To My Skinny Sistas

By Raygen Samone

Standing six feet tall at 120 pounds, I’m the type who goes to town over the holidays and people will still wonder if I ate anything. Not a Thanksgiving goes by without my thick-boned aunties reminding me how tiny I am. I’m the type who spends a semester in Italy, eating pasta twice a day, and comes back to the states having lost weight — can you relate?

I never cared about my health or habits. I thought, “Well, if being skinny is the goal… I’ve already made it, right?” My big sister was the same way she was skinny as a fishing pole. After her first baby, she snapped right back to her beach bod without so much as stepping on a treadmill. However, it was when she had her second baby that started to gain weight. She became frustrated that she still looked nine months pregnant while her baby was learning to crawl.

It wasn’t until she seriously started contemplating getting a tummy tuck that I realized that neither of us had no idea how our bodies worked. I asked her if she would reconsider the idea of surgery if she and I started working out together - she obliged. With a little research, we found a trap yoga class in our local cities. We were both so embarrassed at the realization that our notion of assuming that we were healthy just because we were skinny. We learned something that would forever change our lives, being thin doesn’t exempt us from living with intention in our health journey.

There’s a difference between being thin and being fit. This distinction is similar to the difference between being overweight and thick-boned. My sister and I have been on a fitness journey with the renewed outlook to re-imagine our bodies as our soul’s homes that require the proper stewardship. I’ve learned a lot about myself over the last few months. Some of my realizations include: I use food as a way to feel better in most situations, I have absolutely no endurance while working out and doing a single push-up takes me five minutes. These are needed truths to learn so that I can work on them in the future.

Hear me well, sis - skinniness is not next to godliness. Living a holistically healthy lifestyle takes intention, planning, community, prayer and dedication. Better health practices are absolutely necessary to live well. Especially as Black women, we must take our health seriously. Black women are predisposed to stressors, cancers, diabetes, and heart diseases that cannot forever be masked by a small waist.

To all my skinny sistas out there, do you eat whatever you want and not care? Do you know how your body works? If you had a baby and want to lose the new weight, would you have the discipline and tools to do it? These are important questions that you should consider to either start or refine your approach to healthy living.

Take care of your temple.