Handling Your Triggers

What is your trigger? A trigger is a certain word, situation, or type of person possessing the ability to throw you off and get you to act out of character (overly stressed, panicky, angry, etc.). Sometimes a trigger can be small, and sometimes it can be big, but regardless of its size, it is important to be aware of what your triggers are.

For me, my trigger is “unpredictability”. When things don’t go as I initially plan or foresee, I lose it. For example, when I make a mistake at work, even if it’s the smallest thing, I can’t function. In my mind, I interpret a mistake as a sign of unpredictability (I don’t know what will come from it, so it freaks me out). Regarding my other trigger, finances, whenever I get hit with an unexpected subscription charge or must pay for something I didn’t anticipate…I lose it.

As we go into this next month, and inch closer to a new year, I want to share with you three tips to handling the stress that comes because of being triggered: step away, breathe, and pray.


When you’re triggered, you need to remove yourself from whatever space you are in as soon as possible. If you’re sitting, stand, if you’re standing sit, if you inside go outside, and if you outside go inside. Do the opposite of whatever it is that you’re doing. You need to physically remove yourself from your current state. Remaining where you are will only make you feel worse, so you need to take yourself away.


Breathing encourages your heart rate to slow if it’s elevated. It also promotes relaxation. Three deep, long, breath, will almost instantly calm you down. While breathing, make sure they are slow, deep, and (if needed) spray some lavender mist or light a candle.


Philippians 4:6 states, “Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made know to God.”

Whenever you’re triggered, pray about it. I know hearing someone tell you to “pray about it” when you’re seeking advice is annoying (well, at least I find it annoying), but in the case of managing your triggers and settling your stress, prayer is your most powerful tool.

So, let me pose this question to you. Do you know your triggers? If not, I strongly encourage you to figure it out. Knowing what triggers, you can help you easily identify when things don’t feel right or when you need a moment to simply walk away and take a moment to breathe.